The programs are working.
Stratford youths who considered themselves undisciplined, without confidence, weak, or shy — characteristics that make one especially vulnerable to trouble on the streets — talk about how much more self-assured they are now.
Six months ago, the Stratford police started a PAL Boxing Program in partnership with the Academy of Self Defense to bring Stratford youths off the streets to learn physical skills and life skills. Boxing was added to the police Straight Path program, in which youths combine physical workouts with life-mentoring conversations with police officers and to other self defense and life development programs offered by the academy.
On March 19, roughly 100 members of the community — youths, parents, police officers, and Mayor John Harkins — came to the academy on Main Street for an appreciation dinner marking the programs’ successes.
At the PAL boxing launch in September, Martin Chisholm, owner of the academy where the Police Activities League program is held, explained that the program and activity would “help them with perseverance. It’s a way to find oneself,” and at the celebration dinner he outlined how the training programs help young people learn focus, self-discipline, self-confidence, goal-setting, respect, and making friends as well.
Boys who are maturing into young men in short order, as they have participated in the police and academy programs, were happy to speak up about how they have been affected.
Andrew Murray said he was “ a pushover” when he started working out at the academy at age 16. He said he used to avoid people, but “now I stand up for myself. No one walks over me.”
Murray is studying psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University.
Seventeen-year-old Shane Butler said he had never been arrested, but “there were always little things, like getting kicked out of class.”
“This keeps you off the streets,” Butler said. “Working on skills, repeating, mastering, and moving on helps you to stay in shape and gain confidence. It teaches discipline. It helps you learn who you are and who you want to be. I want to be something great,” he said. “A champion.”
Adrian Santiago, 18, said he used to be shy and quiet, and he once was a victim of a crime — he got jumped. “This program was a blessing,” Santiago said. “It’s not all about throwing hits. It’s a pathway guide from teenager to young adult. How to be an adult and handle situations.”
“Martin [Chisholm] is like a second father,” said Santiago. “I used to have trouble speaking up. He teaches you to better yourself and step out of your shell. To get with right people to better yourself.”
Ethan Brokelschen is 16 and said he has been more disciplined with schoolwork and his physical health since working with Straight Paths. “I have more respect for police. You grow a bond with them and realize cops are there to help, not be an enemy.”
Youth and police dialogue
Stratford police Chief Patrick Ridenhour said the Straight Path program pairs officers with kids for 10-week sessions, and “it works both ways, with kids realizing cops are not what they thought and cops realizing kids are not what they thought.”
During the appreciation dinner event, plainclothes police officers and youths acted out typical dialogues that come up throughout Straight Paths.
In one mock dialogue, a young man told the officer that he was “trying to get with good people.” The officer affirmed that effort, saying, “You are only as good as the people you surround yourself with.”
Another youth said to an officer that he had been having a problem with self-confidence. The policeman advised, “If you do some good it makes you feel good, and doing good gives you self-confidence.”
“But,” the officer added, “no one can give it to you. You have to find it yourself.”
For a boy who said he was struggling with lack of respect, the police mentor said, “That’s a simple fix: Treat people the way you want to be treated.”
During the gathering, a parent, Jessica Johnson, said, “This is a great accomplishment for Stratford. This is what we needed. My son listened to no one. Now I just say ‘sensei’ [the title for Chisholm], and he stands at attention.”
Stratford youths Adrian Santiago, Kevin Banegas, Jonathan McCormick, Shane Butler, and Ethan Brokelschen are feeling good about themselves after participating in physical skills and life skills programs with Stratford police and teachers at the Academy of Self Defense. Greg Reilly photo.